Many a time, we find ourselves scolding our children for not performing well in school, comparing them to the kid next door who has got better scores than them and are smarter than them, physically more active than them or more well-mannered than them. While we consider this to be a way to discipline our kids, the truth of the matter is that these measures will only lead to kids developing a low self-esteem as they grow up.
This low self-esteem, in turn, will turn into other problems like anxiety, depression and even antisocial behavior as the kids grow up. So how do we go about unlocking our kids’ true potentials without yelling at them all day long? Here are some effective tips that may be of some help in the matter.
Understand their Learning Styles
Every kid is unique in his/her own way. Kids also differ in their learning styles wherein one kid prefers to study in a quiet room while another prefers to have some music playing in the background or play around while studying. Understand the learning style of your kids and find out the situations in which they seem to learn the best. This allows you to create a learning approach based on their unique style which will help them learn better without feeling the pressure related to the same.
Encourage Special Skills
Unstructured play can sometimes throw light on special skills your kids may have. Do not be overly possessive about their grades. Instead, focus on their interests and encourage their skills, nurturing them to do better in other fields eventually. These skills may be as simple as dancing, playing catch or playing leapfrog, etc. Let them try something new and take it as an opportunity to develop their physical, personal and intellectual abilities rather than stopping them midway.
Identify Needs behind Behaviors
Kids behave in certain ways owing to their needs. So instead of reprimanding them for their behaviors, find out the reasons motivating the same. You can attempt to abolish these behaviors only by understanding the underlying needs and finding out ways to handle these problem areas. Doing so will help your kids become more cooperative in the long run.
Don’t punish, rather guide
Many a parent feels that the occasional spank does wonders in disciplining kids. The truth is that your kids will become used to these spanks eventually and stop responding to them altogether. Worse, they will try to emulate the same behavior with their friends as means to get what they want. The same goes for punishments as well. Substitute punishments with guidance instead and you will be amazed with the results. For instance, instead of punishing your kids for playing with a ball indoors, you can emphatically suggest that they play outdoors where there is more space and fewer chances for any damage.
Parents should understand the needs of their kids and take appropriate measures to raise them up in a positive environment. Using simple strategies, they can help unlock their kids’ true potential and help them become better human beings as they grow up.